have you ever asked yourself what happiness means? Happiness is Reality - Expectations. Sounds simple, but the truth is, it's not & especially if you belong (like us) to the Generation Y, there is a long way ahead till happiness.
A few weeks ago we found this article about "Why the Generation Y is unhappy" at one of our fav websites (http://waitbutwhy.com). We count us as members of this Generation & of course we were more than curious to find out more about about.
The article is about Lucy. Lucy is a GYPSY, that means Gen Y Protagonists & Special Yuppies.
In a nutshell: Lucy’s parents were born in the 50s—they’re Baby Boomers. They were raised by Lucy’s grandparents, members of the G.I. Generation, or “the Greatest Generation,” who grew up during the Great Depression and fought in World War II, and were most definitely not GYPSYs.
With a smoother, more positive life experience than that of their own parents, Lucy’s parents raised Lucy with a sense of optimism and unbounded possibility (Generation Y kids think THEY ARE SPECIAL). And they weren’t alone. Baby Boomers all around the country and world told their Gen Y kids that they could be whatever they wanted to be, instilling the special protagonist identity deep within their psyches (GENERATIONS Y are AMBITIOUS AND DELUSIONAL)
This left GYPSYs feeling tremendously hopeful about their careers, to the point where their parents’ goals of a green lawn of secure prosperity didn’t really do it for them. A GYPSY-worthy lawn has flowers.
GYPSIS thinks they are special. So why is this delusional? Because this is what all GYPSYs think, which defies the definition of special:
spe-cial| ‘speSHel |
better, greater, or otherwise different from what is usual.
According to this definition, most people are not special—otherwise “special” wouldn’t mean anything. (TRUE)
Even right now, the GYPSYs reading this are thinking, “Good point…but I actually am one of the few special ones”—and this is the problem.
A second GYPSY delusion comes into play once the GYPSY enters the job market. While Lucy’s parents’ expectation was that many years of hard work would eventually lead to a great career, Lucy considers a great career an obvious given for someone as exceptional as she, and for her it’s just a matter of time and choosing which way to go. Her pre-workforce expectations look something like this:
Unfortunately, the funny thing about the world is that it turns out to not be that easy of a place, and the weird thing about careers is that they’re actually quite hard. Great careers take years of blood, sweat and tears to build—even the ones with no flowers or unicorns on them—and even the most successful people are rarely doing anything that great in their early or mid-20s.
But GYPSYs aren’t about to just accept that. And here we discovered both that we thought WHAAAAT, we already did great things and yes we're young, BUT... okay they are right, we have problems to accepted that you can't born as a hero.
The problem about the happiness formula is the gap between expectations and the reality.
Our (and Lucy's) extreme ambition, coupled with the arrogance that comes along with being a bit deluded about one’s own self-worth, has left her with huge expectations for even the early years out of college. And her reality pales in comparison to those expectations, leaving her “reality – expectations” happy score coming out at a negative. And it gets even worse. On top of all this, GYPSYs have an extra problem that applies to their whole generation: GYPSYs Are Taunted by the social media faked lifes of their friends. This leads to Frustration & disappointment...
We asked ourselfs after we read through this article - what can we do to not end like Lucy?
1. Stay motivated. It's not all bad about being a GYPSY. It's at the end a good thing to strive for a successful, fulfilled life. But we need to reflect our expectations compared to the reality and check from time to time if the gap is too high & our expectations are to far away from whats realistic to achieve.
2.Social Media is fake. Have you ever posted something like: "I hate my job and I can't even pay my rent without my parents" or "I'm in a relationship, not because I love this person, but because I don't want to be alone?" No? TRUE because you're social media life is the best thing out of your (and your friends) life & normally no one wants to share the disappointing moments they discover. That's the reason why we should stop measure other peoples life on their Instagram.(Funny fact for all the people out there who think, we travel the whole year instead of working. We work about 250 days a year and we only travel during holidays or on the weekend)
3. Remain true to yourself and enjoy your GYPSY life by the fullest.
check out the complete article here.
P.S.: Die deutsche Version ist bei der Welt erschienen -> hier